A few years ago, my friend and I were talking about how to plan for our next big break, and he asked if we had any advice on how to handle it.
I had no idea how to tell my partner that I was broke and what to do about it.
So I had to learn.
As a result, I wrote this post, a quick guide to making the most of the first big break.
In the past, I’ve taught couples how to avoid making the same mistakes, but I haven’t been as clear about the difference between “being broke” and “being out of pocket.”
I have a lot of advice for you.
I want you to think about your next big breakup as a chance to create an open relationship, where you can be your best self and work with your partner to work toward an eventual reconciliation.
Here are five things to consider before you decide to go out and spend money on gifts, expensive vacations, or any other expense.1.
Do you need it?
If you are broke and looking for an unexpected new source of income, you might want to consider buying something.
For instance, if you are planning a big divorce, you could spend a significant amount of money on expensive gifts and extravagant trips to exotic destinations like France, Germany, and Italy.2.
Do your researchBefore you make your first big move, make sure you read the information available online and read reviews about the various gifts and holidays that might be right for you and your partner.
If you don’t feel comfortable with a gift, consider finding something else.
Do it before you go out to dinnerThe first big step in your divorce settlement is to figure out what you need to spend the money on.
You might have to consider getting an apartment or condo, for example.
Do this before you leave the houseAfter you get home, it’s a good idea to do something to help make your marriage work.
For instance, you can spend the next two weeks talking about the issues that will be at the heart of your divorce and planning how to move forward together.
Talk about your financial situationAfter your first divorce, if things are going well, your partner might ask you about your finances and how you are doing financially.
In the same way that your partner may ask you to do things that you aren’t willing to do, he or she might ask about your feelings about your divorce, whether you are happy or unhappy, and what your plan is for the future.
If you and both of you agree to talk about your money and financial issues, then you can begin to focus on what you can do together in order to be able to live together again in the future, or at least for a longer period of time.
You can also ask your partner about his or her expectations for you, as this can be helpful if you want to talk more about what your relationship will look like after your divorce.
It’s always good to discuss what you are looking for and what you want out of your marriage, so that you can make a plan that is best for both of your goals.